With time, granite that once held the characteristics of a unique natural form is visibly reduced to a smooth, monolithic surface. I work to help each partner understand the perspective of the other, which is often masked in vocabulary, history, and emotion that has concretized over the years.
I hear this question — and I sense the inherent frustration — frequently from women who seek counseling in my office. It took me 40 years to figure out I was living with autism. Nice wife asd am I the first person to actually confront his behaviors as not acceptable??
It is exhausting as mine is very financially controlling too, so I feel like leaving the relationship is impossible.
Read about being married to a man with Asperger syndrome. I figure someone whose brain is geared away from relationship would not be interested. When she finally does go through a divorce, she discovers it will take her years to sort things out.